Why I could possibly have no children...

Howdy, Howdy, Howdy ! So this weekend I went to Myrtle Beach for Black Bike Weekend. (Disclaimer: I do not ride, and haven't since I was kid on my daddy's bike. My friend's family is from there and she suggested a girls weekend. ) We've been before but as kids. So we really had no idea but I learned today, Kevin Hart.

So where does the idea of you having kids fall into this ? Well I'm glad you asked, like to hear it ? here it go. I wanted to literally take a bullhorn and all yell to the mountain tops with all the ratchetry I was witnessing. The first night we arrived, a Kappa party was suggested but I had no confirmation on age group. I DO NOT DO men shimmying for my affection 18 and up and sometimes 21 and up depending on the spot. We ended up riding on the Ocean Blvd. Which was nothing but people walking and slow riding. It wasn't that bad. I saw the familiar dunk riding, bikes zooming thru and guys trying to holla.  Now, the next night we ended up doing randomness and had to meet up with someone, so back to Ocean we go. Saturday night, the ratchetry reached critical mass !!!! Critical mass !!! I witnessed a woman walking around in cheekies (victoria secret ultra small boy shorts), a woman (a 30 yr old ) wearing a body suit that only covered her boobs and vajayjay, a woman popping her behind on the back of a bike, all kinds of behind hanging out of something (male and female), this white guy running for his life being chased by all these black guys. All that was for about 5 short blocks. I don't even wanna know what would have happened if we kept having to go down the street.

I say all this to say, If these were my children, I would have been snatching wigs. Heads will roll is an understatement. This makes me scared to have kids, because while I hope I would raise them right, it only takes one time and your life is jacked. What if that were my daughter walking around trying to get attention from men by thinking it's cool to have her behind hanging out of some shorts that say "Got dick" (true story). What if my son thought because everyone else is doing it, I should act a fool too ? These and other "what if's" scare me. I know nothing is guaranteed but it truly made me second guess having kids someday. I probably still will, but I pray I find balance so that they don't rebel and become the very thing I was trying to prevent.

Do you worry about having kids and how they will turn out ? Why do women think showing a bunch of skin will get them the man of their dreams ? Do men not realize that women rarely look at booty when searching for a man but that other men do ? Just a few thoughts....

I want to say thank you to all the fallen armed forces ! You are loved and not forgotten !

Guess what I did ???.

I completed my FIRST...yes, FIRST Half marathon this past weekend in North Myrtle Beach, SC ! I finished the DIVA Half Marathon in 3 hrs and 18 mins and some seconds. I originally wanted to run a half the Fall of 2010, but I got hurt.

This time I trained with Black Girls Run, Raleigh/ Durham. I still ended up hurt but only because I wanted to play co-ed touch football. (My never I managed to heal myself enough to participate. Not only that, but I sliced the back of my heel leaving the steam room 1 day before I had to run. Talk about bad luck :( . It didn't matter , I was so close, I bandaged myself up and pressed on. During the race, I was snapping pictures, dancing to music on my ipod as I did my run 2 mins/ walk 1 min intervals. I started feeling it the last 2 miles. I was tired but my will and my friend Wanida, would not let me quit. By quit, I mean walk the rest of the way. I don't quit in the traditional sense, It's not in my DNA. After coming around the bin, we sprinted in toward the finish line and I immediately thanked GOD because, honey chile...exactly.

I feel sooo powerful. I'm a goal-oriented person, so being able to successfully complete tasks pumps me up. It took me a little longer, but I made it. Today I'm wearing my Diva shirt. I'm not really hurting , aside from the arch in my foot. I'm amazed because I swore I would be sore for days.

This is apart of my healthy lifestyle. I don't only do it for me, I do it for we, remember ? I am by no means perfect but my genetic makeup makes me susceptible to certain diseases that can be avoided with proper nutrition and exercise. I want to be around for a long time and though I indulge, I manage it.

What accomplishments have you made lately ? What are your goals ?

Viva, folks, viva !!!

Its been a long time, I shouldn't have left you...

I know its been a minute. I've been running around everywhere. Okay so its March 1st. Whooo hoo. I have one week left in my weight reduction eating plan. I am down 10 lbs. In addition to the eating plan I have a heavy workout regimine. I do straight cardio on Mon and Wed. On Tues and Thurs, I do TRX which is a resistance training program in combination with an hr of cardio. I'm also training for my first half marathon on May 20th, so I do long runs on saturdays. I throw yoga in to keep me flexible as I gain muscle.

Now for me working out has never been the issue, its my nutrition. This further shows me how big nutrition is to achieving overall weightloss goals. I was talking to my father and explaining to him how hard I work and I generally don't eat bad, but it is very difficult for me to lose fat but not hard for me to put on muscle. He explained that maybe I'm not meant to be a model size. Now people,my people, I do not want to be that small. As a child, I've always been healthy. I've always had little hips and booty, so it's not going really any wear; not that I want it to ;). But I do want to get around my senior year high school size. That's it ! I will keep working on my nutrition to get there, but it will not happen overnight.

Until next time....

Healthy Me For A Healthy We !

Those that know me, know I love all things physical. Like what you ask, well like to hear it, hear it goes. I love the gym, zumba, water sports, running (shout out to Black Girls Run, Raleigh), skiing, just dance/MJ experience on wii. If it involves movement, chances are, I'm there !


I say all of this to say self, yes, why haven't you lost this college late night eating , wine drinking , I have deadlines can't eat on time weight ? The answer is simple, DISCIPLINE, I'm lacking it. Somewhere along the way when I adopted my "I'll do what I want and not be afraid to live" attitude, I lost my discipline. Now don't get me wrong, I'm not out here going crazy, but when it comes to food, I lost it. 


Welp, those days are ova ! Yes, ova ! For my non-existent future family, I need to slim down now. By non-existent, I mean I'm flying solo currently and not because of high baggage fees. See what I did there. Anywho, it's not that I don't know what to eat and how much to eat, I just hadn't. I've lost weight 2 prior times in my life and then went through big transitions which messed it up. Well no more I say ! If I want to be able to do things with my future fam, then hay I need to start now because with marriage and kids, comes weight gain. So creating a cushion is important for me. 


I've started eating clean again, with a different approach. I know the necessary components of my small meals. Using that knowledge, I take what ever is in my fridge and get creative. It involves a lot of fruit,veggies, protein and complex carbs.I try to make sure everything is living; meaning fresh from the deli counter,produce section, etc. So far, I feel the energy again and I lost some weight. 


I have also decided to run a half-marathon before summer. So I have been training by doing shorter runs during the week and longer ones on the weekend. Last time I trained, I was training without a group and I also injured myself and was unable to participate. So to avoid injury and also meet some great gals, I've joined Black Girls Run. Some of these women have completed multiple races and some are just beginners. I'm more in the middle and I like to run, it gives me clarity. In addition to running, I have become a mainstay at the gym. I already was before but now the difference is my nutrition.


So with all this going on, I decided to call this journey, healthy me for a healthy we. No I do not think of this as a resolution because this was going on before new years. It just so happens I gave it more definition. 


So peoples, what are doing for your health ? 






For some tips see:
http://blackgirlsguidetoweightloss.com/
http://www.mrshutupandtrain.com/category/fitness-tv/
http://www.eatcleandiet.com/

So, err, ummm....

I clearly had a blog on here before but I don't know what happened to it. Anywhoo, I guess This is the remix *diddy voice*. This blog is just a hodge podge of me. Since middle school, I have been a closet writer of my thoughts. It was the only way I could cope at the time. I go in and out of writing depending on my schedule but if all else fails it's the best way to document thoughts.

 My mind is very random at times and I have a lot of interest , so I can't really say it will be about any one thing. I like sewing, fashion, social debate, that yawn when you wake up that if you stretch too hard a charlie horse will commence, running over hot coals, skiing...the list could on and on. However, I am big on positivity. No one likes a negative Nancy unless you are negative Nathan. So welcome, have a seat, this might take a minute but I will try to give you something you can feel. Cheers !